Can
you be too devastated to move on from a Relationship? Let’s say you were
cheated on or even better you did the cheating? Can you move on? Can you show that you have changed, or the
relationship has changed. So, I asked around to get different views
of what men thought first and what their response to see if they have ever
cheated? Some right away were like "Yeah" but “Hell Yeah” in that
deep male voice that I can only do when I am not trying to. Then, of course, there was “Oh no I have never done this” and who knows this could be
the truth or could it be false information. I mean Brian Williams is the
only one that can be that honest…. (Need to check notes on this, is he is
to be away for six months? To Soon????)
Then
out of left field I did read a man created and documented in a blog about his
wife and her outings that were without him. So
in return he then hired a PI and then in a Chinese voice. It is from a movie
don’t freak out and if you don’t know look it up. Just read it online that
alone will kill a few brain cells! Hired an Attorney for the divorce that he is
now ready to have! You noticed how the Attorney is now appointed before he knows for sure what the wife is doing. Let’s continue
with the blog story, To where he did
find her in a motel. Not even in a Hotel for some reason I see bugs in a motel
with this woman’s future. In positions that he never even dared to dream
that she knew the he knew or never done in 22 years of marriage. How far
is too far? Can we get so lost in
the madness of who is doing who or not doing who?
Then
I stopped and went well let's think
of this in a different way… Can cheating be healthy for a
relationship? Yes, I know such a
Vixen to suggest such a thing. Now Husbands don’t go running off to
Ashley Madison off the bat you may not like what you find once you open
Pandora's Box. So going a little deeper
on the issue at hand. Why are humans cheating on one another in
the first place? I mean studies have shown time after time that Men and
Women … Yes, ladies please do not act
like you don’t do it too. We know at some point
in time temptation may have gotten the best of you. Can you become so
tempted to drink out of the sexual fountain of no return?
That
you feel like everyone does talk about it and makes it out to be Okay. Makes it
out to be, well it is understandable on why it feels so good and why you are doing this in the first place. The
reasons why you are staying and that it will only hurt so many people if you
leave. Yes, I know … All of those words and thoughts and theories of
what is and what would it cause if you leave. So Instead You do what you want or what is
best for the time being or what is needed to
feel human. Yes, that is what you do,
and that is what you need, to let go and enjoy those emotions that come with it and the adrenaline that you have
just become addicted too. That you find
you can finally feel free by letting go and express what you have been missing
in your Relationship.
So
being said that you would think that We Humans are cheating because it’s just a
sexual drive issue. That men are just going to nail some tail just because that
they cannot help it. Blame it on animal instinct or just maybe it is a breed of
our DNA systems. That they are doing the dirty Mambo in the dirty sheets that
are not with their wives but with that other woman that will do those things. Do you understand what I just put down on
paper? That Studies show that about 8% of men that do cheat have said that they
choose to cheat because of sex. Those who were Oh so brave to talk their
affair. Said about 48% of men said that the reasons that they did have an
affair with their partner was because the connection between the two of them
seemed lost. So it had nothing to do with what was
between the legs.
There were emotions, and that meant that there was also a communication
between the two. Something that seems to be missing
from your relationship at this point If someone is having an affair. Now this Bitch….but
also puts out…. But she pretends to care and has no worries about you or
what comes with you. Ladies, we are not
left out of this either. It is sad but true,
but studies have shown that 20 to 25% of married women will also have an
extramarital affair during their lifetime. Of course for the sad same reasons
women cheated on their mate because the emotional connection was missing and
now this other dude he has just now done the Boomer stomp on your wife NOW. She
does though have this somewhat emotional and physical connection now though
Congratulation’s! What to do is the question, Break a law and find that nasty
old ugly person that is not your wife,
and not make sense of anything in the next say 24-48 hours. Or how did you get
yourself in this Soap Opera mistake called your life. What can you do to go back to make things right or do you?
To be
together or not is the question now! Can you still sleep in the same room and know
that his Rocket and or her meow was somewhere else. Even better can you go a day without using
the C you next Tuesday word the entire day. Or let’s just stop making it into a
drinking game and every time “the word” is used
and not take shots of tequila. Can we try
with that first folks, please? Never going to get better that way.
The number
one thing to remember about them all. If you can you go without thinking for ONE day.
I said One Day “GOD why don’t you just go away… far
away “Like to Mars is a start. In one of that
new mission to Mars Programs. The
one where you go there, and they keep
your ass there FOREVER! That’s what I am saying
…Yeah baby! Or do you still look at this person and go why in the Hell
did you not fuck me like that? Why are we so lost and what to do to fix us to
find us again? About 65%
partners stay together after they discover that an affair has happen. Therapist
says that for complete trust to rebuild again it will take two years for the healing to be complete. The two of you will have to make it through it so, that will also include a miracle, act of God, maybe it will
even include the re-training process to the brain to forgive and forget. However,
you want to look at it no matter what. She/He
will be asking many questions and a lot of heart searching. You can ask
everyone that you know but only you, your heart, and that brain of yours that
will make that call on what you want. I just hope it is what you want, and it is best and healthy for you and
you alone and those who tag along with you. I say this to you and you alone
because it is you alone that will make
this call. Not anyone else’s heart but yours, so clear your head and listen to
what is best and pray that you got the 50/50 toss-up.
Smooches
and Much Love Always,
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